Fitting In

16 Oct

Alright, another random post from me because this thought just came to me a moment ago while I accompanied my sister to shopping.

When they say things like, “Beauty in the eyes of the beholder”, “Inner beauty that matters” and stuff, do they really apply in reality? Or come on, those are just words of encouragement for the less attractive?

When I say less attractive, I am talking about bigger girls because as stereotype as this sounds, people (guys) tend to conclude big (fat) girls are fugly. While thin ones, hmmm they tend to be easier on the eyes. πŸ˜‰

A friend of a friend of my sister, Xin Yi apparently got rejected at a job interview because of her weight.

The interviewer apparently said, “Your figure only shows how lack of disciplined you are so we are not going to hire you”

Come on, what the hell is wrong with them? Can’t fat people be productive workers? Are you trying to say only thin ones are going to increase your firm’s productivity?

We have totally BIG (like literally) names in the Western countries like Queen Latifah,

#1. Queen Latifah

and of course, Oprah Winfrey who also has a BIG (not literally) heart!

#2. Oprah Winfrey

So why are they accepted with open arms by the society in the Western but not in Malaysia, or any other Asian countries?

Oh well, not that I know of. I’m just generalizing all other Asian countries because we have all the cute small petite stars from Japan and Korea but never have I heard of a plus-sized girl band.

I personally think it could be because the guys here in Asian countries are generally smaller sized than Western ones so you know, it’s against the NORM to have a BIG girl dating a small guy.

Yes, it all comes back to the norm – what is considered right in a society.

Perhaps it’s because most girls in Asian countries are smaller in size so they see it as a norm to have small girls and big girls, OMG THEY ARE SCARY AND WEIRD! ALIEN!!!

Pfftt, what is exactly a norm? According to, it’s defined as
‘A standard, model, or pattern regarded as typical’

Well, Asian girls are supposed to be smaller so big girls, are you supposed to cut off those weights just to fit in?

Sadly, yes. Haha!

I won’t deny that I am bigger in size than an average Asian girl is supposed to be.

I used to always think,
“Heck! I live to eat, not eat to live. So I shall eat whatever I feel like eating! Life’s too short to be filled with all the miseries of not getting to fulfill your cravings.”

What about the carbs, fats and everything else?

Well, I used to think,
“Screw them! I am only going to be attractive if I am comfortable with the way I’m living, eating what I want.”

But unfortunately, I grew up only to find myself wrong. So I am taking oats for dinner, if I manage to persuade myself every night

You just have to do something about it to fit in. Just being yourself is simply too naive and unrealistic. You have to look like the norm only will people start taking you as a part of the society seriously.

Otherwise you are going to be the laughing stock of the lot (well, I still am the joke of the gang) but hey, lose the weight then they will stop.

I am coming clean about this because truthfully, if you are bigger than the rest and it’s because you are eating based on your impulse, you have to do something about it.

No such thing as people accepting you for who you are (I’m talking about a guy girl thing here). Oh well, not in general. There might just be some rare species out there going for girls totally based on inner beauty but that’s simply TOO rare!

I mean, not many are willing to share a bed with someone BIG right? And let her take up more than half of the bed then you don’t even have space to turn anymore?

So yeah, how unfortunate but the truth is big girls you are just not that attractive in Malaysia.

Cut down on those fast food (my Spicy Chicken McDeluxe *sobsob), carbonated drinks (COKE!!), anything preserved (oh assam~), and carbs! (what am I going to do without Maggie Mee? Doughnuts??)

Take more of oats, vegetables, fruits and plain water.

Then go for a jog!

You’ll be surprised how people will start commenting on you looking prettier in just few weeks.

But remember to do it the healthy way! πŸ˜‰

9 Responses to “Fitting In”

  1. xinfeichiley October 20, 2010 at 3:32 pm #

    aiyo.. so random la that post!
    but i like the part, drink more plain water, eat more vege fruits n oats! LOL

    • Xin Min October 20, 2010 at 5:19 pm #

      Haha! I did say it was a random post right??? πŸ˜€

  2. lik sheng October 22, 2010 at 2:52 pm #


  3. chelsea November 3, 2010 at 2:57 pm #

    seriously didn’t expect this from you. if u are REALLY giving up your forever-craved-for McDeluxe, your self discipline is going to be something i’d respect very much, sista! πŸ™‚

    ps: good start with those oats at night! πŸ˜‰

  4. narrowband November 3, 2010 at 11:52 pm #

    Was instructed to check out this post :p

    I think girls shouldn’t worry too much about their weight – just make sure do regular exercise and don’t overeat, can already. Oops, is that considered ‘worrying too much’? Hmm.:p

    • chelsea November 4, 2010 at 3:19 pm #


      • Xin Min November 4, 2010 at 6:25 pm #

        David: Hello!

        XinYi: McDeluxe is prolly something I just won’t let go. Haha. And stop instructing your friends to read my blog lah! Buat malu je.. =.=

  5. hantukeng November 4, 2010 at 9:18 pm #

    “You just have to do something about it to fit in. Just being yourself is simply too naive and unrealistic. You have to look like the norm only will people start taking you as a part of the society seriously”


    • Xin Min November 5, 2010 at 6:40 pm #

      Keng: πŸ™‚ Hello!

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