12 Jun

The thought came to me after reading Cindy’s (I make her sound like a friend of mine here but she’s famous blogger I happened to stalk almost everytime I come online. :p) post on BFF.

The question came, is a friendship measured by how frequent you guys meet? Or is there actually a balance point in between friendship and boyfriends?

Somehow I think it all comes back to the person herself, how she sees things in life. Or what sort of experience she’s been through to be able to say her thoughts on this matter.

I have a friend who now turns her attention and prioritize friends because when she was with her ex she completely ignored her friends and when that cheap bastard cheated on her, she was left alone.

I have another friend who tends to sub-consciously pamper and spoil her boyfriend because it’s been a long time since she’s had one and she thinks, ‘He’s the ONE’.

Well for me personally, I think (certain) friends come a little ahead before my boyfriend. He knows that too.

How do you just ditch friends who have been through everything with you before your Mr Right came? How do you turn them away just because he told you that’s the best thing to do?

Come on, we’re all grown ups with the ability to think, why do you need someone to tell you what to do when you already have your mom?

It makes absolutely no sense to me. If he THINKS he knows what’s best for you, why not tell him to do something about himself or go volunteer at some self-loving campaign because someone who really loves you for who you are will not tell you to change. He will support you in the things you do because it’s the mistakes that you two want to go through together. Not some decision that he claims is ‘right’.


My point is, someone who really loves you will definitely learn to love and respect people around you too. If he loves you and only you, don’t you think there are going to be difficulties in spending the rest of the days together?

And really, never take friends for granted. Just because there’s break up with boyfriends so you think they’re more important and friends… don’t exactly break up with them. Friends just drift away over time, right?


Do you really think your friends are that dumb to still let you come back after you’ve pushed them away because some random dude told you to do that? Even if they do, things will never be the same again. There’s no guarantee that there won’t be random dude number 2 who would come into your life and tell you to do the exact same thing again.

Friends are not measured by the frequency of their meet ups. Or how much the birthday present that you got for them is worth. It’s all part and parcel of the genuine care and concern that you put in when they need it most.

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